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There are some who bring a light so great to the world that even after they are gone, the light remains.

Debbie Swanson, Coordinator

Theresa May, Assistant

Bereavement & Grief Support

Grief is a normal and universal response to losing someone we love.

Our Lady of Peace is committed to supporting hospice patients and their caregivers through the bereavement and grief journey—from the time of admission and up to 13 months following the death of a loved one. All bereavement services are offered free of charge unless indicated otherwise.

Our Lady of Peace Bereavement Services include the following:

  • —One on One support: offered either in person, by phone, or via email
  • —Supportive calls, cards and memorial rose
  • —Support groups at Our Lady of Peace and within the community
  • —Educational workshops
  • —Quarterly e-newsletters
  • —Annual memorial celebrations including Butterfly Release

Upcoming Events

  1. Drop-in Support Group: Wednesday Evenings

    January 3, 2018 @ 6:00 pm7:30 pm
  2. Drop-in Support Group: Wednesday Evenings

    January 17, 2018 @ 6:00 pm7:30 pm
  3. Teddy Bear Workshop: Create a treasured keepsake

    January 20, 2018 @ 9:00 am1:00 pm
  4. Drop-in Support Group: Wednesday Evenings

    February 7, 2018 @ 6:00 pm7:30 pm
  5. Drop-in Support Group: Wednesday Evenings

    February 21, 2018 @ 6:00 pm7:30 pm
Helpful Resources

The following resources have been selected by our Bereavement staff as helpful sources of support and information.

General Online Resources for Grief:

American Cancer Society
Allina Grief Resources
Fairview Youth Grief Services
Center for Loss
The Dougy Center Grief Resources
Allina's List of Books for Grieving Adults

Blogs About Grief:

What's Your Grief
Hello Grief


Terrible, Thanks for Asking (American Public Media)

Not every resource will be effective for every individual. The pages, blogs, audio, video, and/or books posted here are external resources and do not necessarily reflect the views of Our Lady of Peace. Please contact a member of Bereavement staff with any suggestions or concerns regarding a specific resource.

Grief Library

General Reading on Grief

Grollman, Earl. Living When a Loved One Has Died.
Reeves, Nancy. A Path Through Loss.
Westberg, Granger. Good Grief: A Constructive Approach to the Problem of Loss.

Loss of a Spouse

Felber, Marta. Finding Your Way After Your Spouse Dies.
First Mennonite Church. When Your Spouse Has Died: A Guide for the Bereaved.
Wylie, Betty Jane. Beginnings: A Book for Widows.

Loss of a Parent

Akner, Lois. How to Survive the Loss of a Parent.
Chetnik, Neil. Father Loss.
Edelman, Hope. Motherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss.

Loss of a Child

McCracken, Anne. A Broken Heart Still Beats: After Your Child Dies.
Wezeman, Phyllis Vos. Finding Your Way After Your Child Dies.

Grieving Children and Teens

Brown, Laurene Krasny and Brown, Marc. When Dinosaurs Die.
Mundy, Micheline. Sad Isn’t Bad: A Good-Grief Guidebook for Kids Dealing With Loss.
Varley, Susan. Badger’s Parting Gifts.

Supporting Someone Who is Grieving

Kolf, June Cerza. How Can I Help? How to Support Someone Who is Grieving.
Linn, Erin. I Know Just How You Feel: Avoiding the Cliches of Grief.
Wolfelt, Alan. Healing the Grieving Heart: 101 Practical Ideas for Families, Friends, and Caregivers.

For those Helping a Grieving Child or Teen

Colorosa, Barbara. Parenting with With and Wisdom in Times of Chaos and Loss.
Fitzgerald, Helen. The Grieving Teen: A Parent’s Guide.
Kubler-Ross, Elizabeth. On Children and Death.


For further reading, see Allina Health's resource list.

Community Connections

We are fortunate in the Twin Cities to have wonderful supportive programming throughout the community. The following programs will be hosting grief/bereavement support offerings. Registration is required. 

Navigating the Holidays
Although the holidays seem far away, they are coming and can sneak up on grievers.
Please join us for an educational discussion on how to navigate through the holidays this
year as they are changed by the death of a loved one.
When: November 6, 2017, 6-7 p.m.
Where: Fairview Oxboro Clinic, Loon Room, 600 W 98th St, Bloomington
Cost: No cost, but RSVP appreciated
Contact: 952-885- 6183 or griefresources@fairview.org

Self-Care During the Holidays
For adults grieving the death of a loved one as they prepare for the holidays. Learn more about grief
and the importance of self-care. A variety of self-care approaches for reducing stress, processing grief
and creating balance will be offered, as well as suggestions on how to navigate the holidays while
When: Monday, Nov. 13, 2017; 6-8 p.m.   
Where: HealthEast Midway Building, Conley Room, 1700 University Ave W, St. Paul, MN 55104
Cost: No cost, but registration is required by Nov. 8, 2017
Contact: Call 651-232- 3543 or email griefsupportservices@healtheast.org.

Grieving through the Holidays
Grieving through the Holidays is an annual event at The Center and is typically scheduled in November.  This event provides a space for gathering with others and reflecting and remembering.  The program includes a candle lighting ceremony, a craft activity, and time for providing information and tips regarding coping with grief during the holidays.  
When: Thursday November 16, 2017 at 6:30 pm
Where: The Center for Grief, Loss & Transition, 1129 Grand Ave, St. Paul, MN 55105  
Registration: No fee, MUST register.
Contact: Please RSVP to Stacy at 651-641-0177.

Holiday Support Offering
Allina is offering a support group centered around navigating the holidays and the complex emotions they can stir following the death of a loved one.
When: Saturday, November 18th, 2017 from 10 am - 12 pm 
Where: Allina Westgate location, 1055 Westgate Dr St Paul, MN
Free, please register
Contact: Laura Mortenson at 612-262-7263 or laura.mortenson@allina.com

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